I want my girlfriend to gag me and tie me to a chair, but how do I tell her that? I am scared she may take it that I am gay! But really, how can I tell her, I don’t mind doing it to her, but I am just worried she may not want to be dating any longer! Please help me!
Hmm…. it’s kinda hard to say, because I don’t know how far you’ve gone with her and how comfortable you two are with talking about that sort of thing.
Oh well. I’ll give it a shot.
If you’ve ever talked about stuff like what turns you on or what turns her on, then that’s a great time to take the opportunity to sort of ease into it =]
I’d say the best time to do is it when it’s just you two and you’re just hanging out together and just casually bring it up.
You can say something like "Hey, have you ever wanted to tell someone that you’re into something but you’re not sure how they’d react?"
She’ll almost definitely say "yes" — we’ve all got our guilty pleasures ;D
Now you can take the direct approach or the sneaky way
Direct approach: you can say something like "Yea, I kinda have that problem…" and then she’ll probably catch on that you’re trying to tell her something and ask what it is and then you could say something like "Well, I’ve been fantasizing lately about you and me and I kinda wanted to see how it’d really place out. What would you say to us _________"
or, like I said, you can go the sneaky route!
"Yea, my friend’s[exaggerate "my friend" so she knows that you're really talking about you.] has that problem. He really wants to tell his girlfriend he’s into something but, you know."
She’ll probably say "Why doesn’t he just tell her"
then go "Alright. What would you say if I told you that I want you to _______."
Now she’ll either go "Why do you like that?" and you could say "Because the thought of you taking control turns me on like crazy" [say that last part sexily and maybe it'll catch her offguard and say ok because she finds you irresistable and the thought of taking control turn her on too 
]
or she’ll either go "I don’t know…" and you can say "Well we can ease into it and see what you think"
I don’t know, there are a lot of different ways to going about this lol
Msg if you like my idea and we can talk more about it =P
But yea, I was fortunate enough to have an understanding boyfriend<3
I told him how I’d think it’d be hot if he spanked me and he was slightly amused, but he took my word for it and respected my quirk and he was even nice enough gave me a spank or two LOL
So yea, I say just go for it! It’s bad to hold things in, and you won’t feel completely true to yourself. And speaking from my own experience, it can get really tiring and frustrating to keep something from someone you care about x_x
Anyway, whether you choose to tell her or not, I wish you guys happiness =]
P.S. Sorry for the long response. I just really want to help since I was in the same predicament x_x
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