She broke up with me because I was being verbally abusive to her, she said I broke her heart. She won’t talk to me anymore, no matter what I do. How can I convince her to be friends again? Anyone have experience with this? Winter break is coming up and I want to make it up to her. Help?
Okay, man. You messed up. If you haven’t already done so, you need to apologize to her. Make sure the apology is genuine and let her know that you understand how she feels and how sorry you are. Don’t just apologize because you want her back, it has to be authentic otherwise she’ll know and think you’re just blowing smoke at her.
This probably won’t get her back. She’ll probably still want to stay broken up. That’s okay. Agree with her. Tell her that you understand and you agree that taking a break would be a good idea.
Now this part is key… You need to completely disappear (at least from her point of view). For about two to four weeks, just completely vanish. She’ll be left totally curious about what your up to and how you’re doing. This will eat away at her, and she’ll probably try to contact you.
From here, you need to be the happy and fun guy that she fell in love with in the first place. You might agree to meet and catch up. Keep everything lighthearted and have fun. Don’t talk about serious stuff like getting back together or anything like that. That just looks desperate. Leave her wanting more.
After that you can start to casually see each other if things go well. Remember to always come across as fun and exciting to be around. Before you know it she’ll remember just what a great guy you are and she’ll reconsider getting back with you.
Hope this helps.
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