How To Get Your Ex Back!!!

Okay, so it’s kind of a complicated situation -
I was dating my ex for about eight-nine months. We got along great – we were compatible physically, sexually, and mentally. However, I had this security problem. I felt like I had to flirt with other guys so it looked like I was this girl that could be easily lost and some other shit like that. I KNOW. THAT IS RETARDED. I never should have done that, and I’ll never do it again.

A few months into our relationship, I cheated on him with someone I had no feelings for. He forgave me after that, and our relationship was better than before. However, this same guy cornered me again when I was drunk and asked for a blowjob. I gave him one. I didn’t want to, I didn’t like it, and after about twenty seconds I was so disgusted with myself that I left. I told my boyfriend about it a week later and he broke up with me.

It’s been two weeks; I went through the whole crying and begging thing, and I’ve calmed down a lot now. We hang out again, and he really wanted to be friends with me. I tried telling him I didn’t think I could do that and then he just about begged me to stay friends with me. We hung out yesterday, and had a good time. But then we ended up having sex and having a serious conversation about our past relationship. He got angry when the cheating thing was brought up – in fact, he would barely talk about it.

In essence, he said that he can’t take me back for cheating on him with the same person twice, because it’s morally wrong. But from how he acts and from what he says, I can tell that he still loves me and misses me. We decided not to be friends with benefits because it hurt both of us too much. He still invites me to hang out with him and his friends, and we made plans to do something together Thursday. From our conversation yesterday, he seemed genuinely surprised about how much I actually cared about him.

Will he ever take me back? Do I just need to give him time to get over the anger and bring it up again? Because right now, whenever he thinks about it, all he thinks about is how angry he is over it.

I know what I did was wrong. I know I never should have cheated on him. I never will again. This experience was a big eye opener for me. But I don’t want to lose this man – he fulfills me and challenges me in so many different ways, and he’s the only person I’ve really felt this connected with.
It seems part of my message was censored. The starred out thing is supposed to say b1owj0b.

Also, I’m not a guy. I don’t know why it says my name is Kurt.

You don’t deserve a 2nd chance. Live and learn from this mistake.
You will be sure to think twice about lying to the next guy who comes around.

We all make mistake so leave this one in the past and let go of the guy. He deserves better and you will be fine in the future.

I want to go out with my ex-girlfriend again. She wasn’t stolen but I need advice on how to get her back.

Hi Ryan…

This is funny, because my name is also Ryan… Nice to meet you.

You didn’t provide any details… It’s going to be very hard for me to answer your question (and this will make this answer really long – please, make sure you read everything, it will help you a lot). But, there are two main reasons why relationships come to an end:

1. The first scenario has to do with something really wrong that you or your ex did (like cheating for instance). If you’ve cheated on your ex or you did something that really upset them, you need to learn how to make an effective apology, otherwise, your ex will never be able to forgive you fully (and, no, saying "I’m sorry" it’s not enough). They need to know that you really understand how bad they felt when it happened. When you do that, avoid saying things like "it was nothing". This will only demonstrate that you are not congruent with what they feel. But, if you’re serious about getting your ex back, I’m going to teach you how to make a deep apology that will save your relationship.

2. The second scenario has to do with a loss of attraction. What this means is that your ex is not that into you anymore. Does any of the following sound familiar…? "I’m not sure I want this anymore. I feel that I should meet more people and try different things before I settle down. I feel like I’m not ready yet to commit to someone. It’s not you… it’s me…" It’s funny to hear variations of this in almost every situation. But the core reason is the same: your ex does not feel attracted to you anymore. Understand that, at the beginning of your relationship, your ex wasn’t attracted to you by chance. But as the relationship progressed, you began to lose some, most or all of the attractive traits. If you want your ex back, you need to learn about this gender-specific traits that can make you attractive and really become an attractive person again.

There is so much to be said about this… but let me tell you a little story (I bet you’ve been there too):

I’m an ok looking and nice guy, but, when I was in high school, I just couldn’t understand how the biggest jerks in my classroom were ending up with the most beautiful girls all the time… Were they better looking than me? Not really… at least, not all of them… Did they behave nicer than I did? Of, course not! They were treating the girls like crap, busting their balls all the time! They were making fun of them and the jokes were really nasty almost all the time! But still, somehow, they were getting attention from all the girls! What the hell was happening there?!…

…Am I saying that you have to become a jerk to get your ex girlfriend back? Hell no! You can still be yourself (probably a very nice person) and attract women (and your ex girlfriend too) like crazy. Actually, you can do way better than a jerk, because you can be nice and adapable and they simply can’t…

What I do say is that you can learn something from these high scool experiences with jerks…

#1. Leadership

#2. Self-Assurance

#3. Decisiveness

#4. Self-Control

These are the traits that attract women like crazy, and jerks are sometimes displaying them by mistake, with their arrogance and nasty jokes.

These are but a few of the main traits you absolutely *must* have in order to maintain a healthy "male/female polarity".

Now, don’t you think that you can do way better by simply learning how to be a man?

In many cases, women will tolerate a lot of crap from their partners without ever thinking of leaving the relationship… as long as they feel one primary emotion… and that’s called ATTRACTION.

Men usually tend to lose their masculine traits and their personality by letting their girlfriends lead the relationship… This way, they let the "male/female polarity" shift… and here’s what usually happens:

1. You tend to do only what she wants you to do, even if that’s not exactly what you want.

2. You change your preferences because she likes a certain music style, food, clothing, hairstyle etc…

3. You don’t always have plan in mind (i.e. when she asks you where you want to go out, you’re out of ideas and you let her chose… again).

Seems difficult? Well, women love a "man with a plan" and if you’re not willing to become one, you’ll face this issue over and over again.

You need to become that mysterious guy you used to be when you two first met. Become a challenge! Tell her you want to go out with her in a very unusual place… a place you’ve never been before with her…

But, first step you need to make is to give her some space… Give her the chance to miss you a little bit… to realize your value. Human beings only realize the true value of something when it’s gone… Give her a taste of your real value…

There are many ways to make her feel attracted to you again but, unfortunately, I can’t make this any longer. But, for now, if nothing else, at least do this!

If you’ve found this interesting, you can read more here:

http://www.quicklygetherback.com

I encourage you to do this because a lot of guys are able to get back with their girls in no time, every day, because of this information they get.

Good luck,
Ryan