How do I get through to my girlfriend about taking drugs?
My girlfriend used to smoke weed and cigarettes. Then we started dating, and it got serious, so I asked her to stop. She stopped completely, promising me she’d never smoke or take pills or anything. About three times she slipped up on smoking cigarettes and then lied to me about it. I can understand slipping up, its an addiction, but lying was a big thing. But we got over it. Then she took some pain pills and cold medicine at school and, again, lied to me about it. We worked through that too. I understood why she lied, she promised she wouldn’t again, etc. About a month ago, she moved to a new school. We’re still dating and everything, going stronger than ever. Then yesterday she tells me she took Adderall. I got really mad, because that’s more serious then pain and cold pills. She broke my trust in her a fifth time. It hurt really bad. But, yet again, I forgave her, but asked that she either stay true to her promise or take it back. She chose the latter. This morning I looked up side effects, and one source said that there is a very high risk of heart attack (she complained about high heartbeat yesterday), severe weight loss and loss of appetite (she didnt eat at all last night), and quick addiction. I told her all that, plus some info my friend shared (Adderall comes up as cocaine on a drug test). She then told me, "Wow, thats scary, I’m going to have to think about it." That bothered me deeply, that she would have to think about it. She knows how I feel about it all, and how much it hurts me when she does things like this, PLUS she knows about a risk of heart attack, and she needs to "think about it"?! I don’t know what else to say to her or what to do in order to get through to her. Yes, I understand there are way worse things out there besides Adderall, but one drug leads to another almost always, and even if not, all I keep thinking about is her having a heart attack or losing too much wait and dying. I’m scared for her, but I can’t seem to get through to her. Please help!
We’ve been together seven months and have been great friends for two years. I’m with her till the end, as she is with me. Also, she only takes them when her friends are taking them, which is not that often. keep in mind these incidents were spread out. This last time she didnt lie, she told me the truth. I believe its more of a peer pressure thing, and I believe she used to lie about it because she knew I’d be mad and as she says she always wants me happy. She falsely thought I’d rather not know, but we talked about it and she understands now.
striaght up: she’s got an eating disorder.
I took adderall so i wouldn’t eat,
and that’s the only reason people really take it.
plus i started taking random drugs before i became anorexic and bulimic.
help her now,
or she’ll end up in a grave.
You can’t change people. They have to want to change before you can even begin to help them, especially people abusing any addictive substances.
You’re wasting your time.
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WOW! You need to get her help even if it means breaking her trust with you. You should tell her parents. I have three kids myself and I would be very upset if their boyfriends and girlfriend hid that from me. You could also try threatening her with breaking up and see if that works. How is she getting these pills and drugs? Through school? You also should get the police involved since she is getting them at school!
Best of Luck!
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explain to her that you are here to help her thru it. Warn her and keep giving signals that u want her to stop. Keep talking to her about it and make sure that she can feel like she can rely on you to help
Hope this helps
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Been there, done that wore the t-shirt. 13 years and 3 children later and he never changed. He even went to Rehab but only because it was court mandated.
I tell you this to say that you have to remove yourself from this relationship. It will take everything from you and you need to let her deal with this issue on her own. She knows the consequences of using drugs. It’s 2009 everyone knows.
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You need to pull up anchor. One of the things you will hopefully take from this is that you can’t make a relationship work when you both are looking for different lives. She is going to be tweaked out on meth by the time she is 21. After that everything that comes out of her mouth will be a lie and everything of value you own is going to be stolen from you. Do you want the worry and constant drama she is bringing you?
Ps,it is really inconsequential, but adderal doesn’t show up as cocaine, it shows up as an amphetamine, which it is.
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ok first thing the best way you can help her is to try and get her to talk to a doctor and therapist she seems like she likes to be high and you need to tell her if she is going to do it then just tell you and stop lying saying she is going to stop all you want is the truth if she does it or not not fake promises, but I think she really doesn’t care about you as much as she should, she likes that you care about and worry about her and obviously she just thinks you are going to be around forever she thinks she is being cool and a rebel but that is all to feed her own ego she is a really weak person and if you stay with her you will always have to be the strong one but who is going to be there when u need a shoulder to lean on, she is being really stupid and one day she is going to wake up and be addicted not able to stop that’s how it happens addiction isn’t a choice once ur all in it she has a choice now and by making this choice to stay bad is the reason no one respects or feels sorry for druggies cuz they made the choice and it happens to selfish weak ppl
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I experimented with drugs when I was younger and my brother is 21 druggie being a loser, my 23 yr old cuzin is living off the streets being a crackhead, my grandmother died from alchol in the liver, my uncle died of a heroin overdose
striaght up: she’s got an eating disorder.
I took adderall so i wouldn’t eat,
and that’s the only reason people really take it.
plus i started taking random drugs before i became anorexic and bulimic.
help her now,
or she’ll end up in a grave.
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