How can i get my girlfriend to stop smoking?
(Warning – this question may go on for a bit!)
Just would like to know how i can get my girlfriend to stop smoking. I know you can’t give up by the snap of the fingers and i don’t expect that. She says that she won’t smoke around me cos she knows i don’t like it but today she said "please don’t hate me but i really need a fag" I don’t mind her having the odd one here and there if she’s going to give up. I think i nag her too much to give up by keep saying "if you want to give up, i’ll help you all the way" The reason why i want her to give up is apart from obviously all the health risks which every tom dick and harry knows! But because i watched my nan die from lung cancer a few months ago caused by smoking. I just don’t want the same to happen to her because i care for her so much. I tried explaining that to her today and it was so hard i had a tear come out my eye in public (looked like a right plonker) and this made her upset. So any advice or tips would be grateful. Thank you to all 
(I DID WARN YOU IT WOULD BE A LONG QUESTION! – got a bit carried away with myself)
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Give her an ultimatum with a time period. Say, I want you to quit smoking by X, or whatever amount of time seems appropriate. Then you tell her that if she’s still smoking at that time you’ll break up with her.
Its obviously bothers you, hence your aunt. It doesn’t sound like you could love someone who smokes, or rather, they couldn’t love you. So yeah, be honest, and if she loves you enough she’ll quit. This is a bit idealistic, but I think it’s a good test of how strong your relationship is.
My dad made my mom quit. He said to her that she should choose him or the cigarettes. She chose him, which is why I’m here. I asked my fiance to quit too. I told her it was either me or the cigarettes after dating for a year. She chose me. And reminds me of it all the time, mind you. But hey, its worth it to me.
Good luck man.
"Bitttch stop smoking"
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dude thats nasty , i would seriously tell her to stop or else i would leave her , its just so nasty
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dump her=)
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She won’t give up unless she wants to its a very strong addiction. You might want to get another gf.
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as you said you can’t make a person stop smoking. Smoking has become a bad habit of your girlfriends. When the time has come she’ll stop smoking.
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Just be supportive, dont threaten her.
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she has to have the own will to do so, so unless she faces upto it herself and wants to there’s not much you can do because remember nicotine is a very addictive substance, and only will power will fight against it
talk to her and see if she WANTS to if she does, then call the stop smoking helpline in your area theres thousands
if she doesn’t, then tell her to cut down a bit not much else you can do
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If she doesn’t want to quit, she won’t. I personally hate smoking and think it’s wrong. But I have also seen many try to quit, and the need for nicotine can be great. But if she let’s you help her, get her some nicotine patches and keep reminding her the negative and positive effects of being smoke-free. Hope I helped.
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She won’t quit until she wants to. Tell her about Chantix……..it really is a miracle drug if you want to quit smoking.
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a good way is to have her set a date she will stop, (if she wants to that is) it must be at least six months from today, its a mind thing, if she remembers that day, her brain will tell her to stop automatically.
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nicotine patch
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You should get her some nicotine gum. It helped my dad quit.
In my mom’s case, she was so addicted, she went to a therapist, and they hypnotized her to make her think she didn’t like smoking. So now whenever she smells cigarettes, she wants to puke.
I recommend either of the two solutions.
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Describe what happened to your Nan and maybe she’ll realize that you don’t want to go through that again with her. Maybe she’d understand if she knew how it affected people around her. You can try nicotine patches and gums, or talk to a hotline or support. The first thing you have to do is make her realize that it’s not worth the addiction, then you have to make her want to stop.
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one guy has marooned himself on an island in a bid to stop smoking, but i wouldn’t suggest that
Try nicotine patches or them inhalers or even gum. Ask her to just have a couple or like my friend she was so worried about her mum, she started taking some of the cigarettes and throwing them away and her mum just thought she’d smoked em’ so she was cutting back. Different methods work for different people but if she doesn’t truly want to stop then i doubt she’ll have the will power to stop smoking
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tell her ur gonna break up with her if she doesnt quit cuz thats what my bf did for me, and i been smoke free since thanksgiving.
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Get some ingo from the NHS, and tell her the harsh facts, and how much it would mean to you for her to stop.
Show her pictures of manky teeth, fucked up lings, yellow fingers….
I hope i helped, and wish you all the best, your doing the right thing:)
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Give her an ultimatum with a time period. Say, I want you to quit smoking by X, or whatever amount of time seems appropriate. Then you tell her that if she’s still smoking at that time you’ll break up with her.
Its obviously bothers you, hence your aunt. It doesn’t sound like you could love someone who smokes, or rather, they couldn’t love you. So yeah, be honest, and if she loves you enough she’ll quit. This is a bit idealistic, but I think it’s a good test of how strong your relationship is.
My dad made my mom quit. He said to her that she should choose him or the cigarettes. She chose him, which is why I’m here. I asked my fiance to quit too. I told her it was either me or the cigarettes after dating for a year. She chose me. And reminds me of it all the time, mind you. But hey, its worth it to me.
Good luck man.
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hey, i have the EXACT same prob with my boyfriend. and iv watched family die, and im watching my grandpa die and he doesnt seem to mind, iv gotten to where he only smokes like 2 a day, but i cant seem to get it less then that
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eww dont kiss her
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Well, I wouldn’t be too concerned about the health risks. Although your aunt died of cancer, there is a genetic predisposition for those who get lung cancer in the first place. That’s why there are so many people who live into their 90′s or 100′s that have smoked like a chimney for their entire life, and then you have some who just up & die after taking a single puff, and there is no way to trace the causes of lung cancer back to cigarette smoke. It’s only a statistical correllation. I personally believe that the tobacco industry is just being used as the scape goat for major polluters, because pollution is highest in poor neighborhoods, and people in poor neighborhoods are also more likely to have vices such as smoking.
Which is worse: being stuck in a closed room with 100 smokers, or being stuck in a closed room with a single running gas (petrol) motor?
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I think you should tell her to she can smoke around you because her not being able to smoke around you is putting your relationship in more jeopardy. Whenever she smokes around you get all quiet and sad. When she realises your quite and sad she’ll ask you why and you can be understanding and tell her how you will help her to quit and stand by her. hope I helped at least a bit x x x Good Luck!!!!
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My ginormous brain
You are a control freak and you don’t know it!
What right have you to dictate how another person lives?
Perhaps a compromise might work. Tell her you’ll stop drinking ( or whatever you enjoy ) if she gives up her pleasure!
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Hit her over the head with a cricket bat – hard
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I think you are going about trying to help her quit the right way, telling her you are concerned about her health. You realize already it is not an easy task. Maybe help her slow down? Most importantly is be patient and loving and if you love her with all your heart, then have faith and pray with her that Jesus will help her to quit. Sometimes it takes more then someONE to help. It may take time. I know because I have the problem she does and I had someone try helping me quit with anger and that will not work. It makes the situation harder in fact.
My brother just married a girl YESTERDAY in Hollywood! His first wife and she smokes. He always said he would never marry a smoker! Well love is bigger then that! God is love. He tries to encourage her to slow down and someday quit. She has made an effort! Love conquers all…!
God Bless!
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Hi ya,
Ok, I am a smoker. I have smoked for 12 years. I have always said things like "I can quit if I want to." "It’s my only vice." "You only live once" etc etc. All the excuses under the sun. Truth is, I’ve never WANTED to give up. Until now.
I recently went to my local NHS stop smoking service where I was given advice and support on quitting smoking. They asked me what my reason for quitting was. (For me, it’s because I want to have a baby). They then advised me on what was available to me. As I am trying to conceive, Champix was not advised (Though this is a pretty effective drug to aid quitting so I am told). I can however have patches. Although not ideal when trying to conceive, it is far better than actually smoking the cigarette.
I had to set a date that I would take the plunge and go smoke free. That day is tomorrow. After that, I will keep attending meetings with the stop smoking service where I will get one to one and/or group support. They even give you a phone number to call if you feel the need to light up! This is where I am told that the operators will support you 24 hours a day.
I think that what I’m getting at is that your girlfriend needs to WANT to stop. Unless she does, for whatever reason, I do not feel that she could. I know I didn’t. There is much more support available these days. A trip to the GP will help for advice.
I do hope that this issue gets resolved soon.
Good luck.
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if she wans to smoke you have to let her. heres the plan. if she smokes 20 a day, ask her to drop 1 cig a day for a week.ask her which cig will she not light up, the 1 in the morning, the break at work, the last 1 before bed. then ask her to cut another during the day, and highlight where she might be smoking 2 where she’d only need 1. keep cutting, like first 1 has to be after 9 or 10 in the morn and last 1 has to be before 9. you can keep making the day shorter like that
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Don’t dump her, it’ll only make her smoking worse.
Try sitting down and talking to her about her smoking habits and tell her that you hate seeing her smoke.
Ask her if she is willing to give up smoking and if she is then talk about ways of stopping, ie, nicotine gum, nicotine patches and all those sorts of things.
Support her through it because it will be very hard for her and she’ll need you there for her.
I hope this has helped.
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It took me 2 years to fully Quit Smoking, it is really difficult to Stop smoking and you need lots of self discipline to stop the cravings on cigarettes.
i no its really hard 2 try nd make sum1 stopp smokin iv been tryin 2 make my girlfreind stop but shes sayin its 2 hard me i use 2 smoke but it was da adiction of sukin on sumfin that tast good soo i went lookin around nd it turned out lollipops helped me some how……and i didnt beliv in it but now i do….i no that my gf is everyfin 2 me soo i try 2 get her 2 stop da best way posibal..nd all it takes is 4 her 2 hav her mind on sumfin eles, get her 2 hav sumfin eles den smokes,u hav 2 b suportiv nd protectiv ov ur gf…try nd get her 2 stay around u more offen try get her 2 suk sumfin diffrent other den smokes
good luck tc
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