How Can I Get My Ex Back After Cheating?
Okay, so it’s kind of a complicated situation -
I was dating my ex for about eight-nine months. We got along great – we were compatible physically, sexually, and mentally. However, I had this security problem. I felt like I had to flirt with other guys so it looked like I was this girl that could be easily lost and some other shit like that. I KNOW. THAT IS RETARDED. I never should have done that, and I’ll never do it again.
A few months into our relationship, I cheated on him with someone I had no feelings for. He forgave me after that, and our relationship was better than before. However, this same guy cornered me again when I was drunk and asked for a blowjob. I gave him one. I didn’t want to, I didn’t like it, and after about twenty seconds I was so disgusted with myself that I left. I told my boyfriend about it a week later and he broke up with me.
It’s been two weeks; I went through the whole crying and begging thing, and I’ve calmed down a lot now. We hang out again, and he really wanted to be friends with me. I tried telling him I didn’t think I could do that and then he just about begged me to stay friends with me. We hung out yesterday, and had a good time. But then we ended up having sex and having a serious conversation about our past relationship. He got angry when the cheating thing was brought up – in fact, he would barely talk about it.
In essence, he said that he can’t take me back for cheating on him with the same person twice, because it’s morally wrong. But from how he acts and from what he says, I can tell that he still loves me and misses me. We decided not to be friends with benefits because it hurt both of us too much. He still invites me to hang out with him and his friends, and we made plans to do something together Thursday. From our conversation yesterday, he seemed genuinely surprised about how much I actually cared about him.
Will he ever take me back? Do I just need to give him time to get over the anger and bring it up again? Because right now, whenever he thinks about it, all he thinks about is how angry he is over it.
I know what I did was wrong. I know I never should have cheated on him. I never will again. This experience was a big eye opener for me. But I don’t want to lose this man – he fulfills me and challenges me in so many different ways, and he’s the only person I’ve really felt this connected with.
It seems part of my message was censored. The starred out thing is supposed to say b1owj0b.
Also, I’m not a guy. I don’t know why it says my name is Kurt.
You don’t deserve a 2nd chance. Live and learn from this mistake.
You will be sure to think twice about lying to the next guy who comes around.
We all make mistake so leave this one in the past and let go of the guy. He deserves better and you will be fine in the future.
explain to your ex what exactly happened..
and if he still doesn’t want you back..
then just move on
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You don’t deserve a 2nd chance. Live and learn from this mistake.
You will be sure to think twice about lying to the next guy who comes around.
We all make mistake so leave this one in the past and let go of the guy. He deserves better and you will be fine in the future.
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If he fulfilled you in anyway you wouldn’t have cheated.
Clearly you can’t keep promises since you said you wouldn’t do it again after the first time.
He deserves better then that
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Be thankful if he does take you back. Once is enough, but a second time is 2 times too many. Sounds like you are a little loose when under the influence. I suggest you refrain from alcohol.
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Wait 1 month and 2 weeks. if you have to wait 2 months. You obviously hurt him more TWICE( i mean the same person. really??) its gonna take some time for you to get his trust back. You and him need time apart. be friends but not hey lets hang out every weekend friends. This might led to another situation where you might become friends with benifits again and you dont want that. TIME you need TIME
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I think right now the only thing you can do is get him to trust you again.
Would you be with someone who you lost trust for?
Be honest with him, always.
And get rid of the other guy for good.
You are worth so much more then that honey
Everyone makes mistakes and luckily you can openly admit you made one.
Send him ‘I’m Sorry’ flowers or a gift.
Don’t expect him to come running back but that will show him you still care.
On a card or note write that ‘I still care alot for you and I only want you to be happy. Whatever you need me to be, I’ll be that.’
And that’s exactly what you should do.
Right now he needs you as a friend while he regains his self esteem and his trust for you.
This is gonna take some time
but if you really care for him you can wait it out.
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He forgave you once and you ended up doing it again. I dont blame him one bit. Love him enough to let him go to find happiness with someone who wont hurt him. He deserves at least that.
Sorry.
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He shouldn’t take you back. In my opinion, you were lucky he even gave you the first chance. Why would you cheat in the first place? If you want to be with someone else, or even try someone else, you don’t leave your bf/gf on the backburner as backup. If you’re not ready for a committed relationship, that’s fine. But don’t hurt someone who is.
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wake up n behave yourself! Your bf deserve a decent n faithful girl.
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you can only be friends with benefits going forward
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I think you are looking for pity, but you dont deserve any. I feel so bad for your boyfriend. If my girlfriend ever did this to me it would kill me and I would never be able to get it out of my mind. You really do disgust me. You made it even worse by waiting a whole week to tell him. During that week he was probably being nice to you while you kissed him with another guy’s sperm in your mouth. I highly doubt he will take you back, and if he does, it won’t last. He will never forget this.
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