How can I get my boyfriend to understand I’m acting like this because I’m pregnant?
I am now 6 weeks pregnant, and very emotional. It was unplanned, but we both decided to keep it. Since I have gotten pregnant, my boyfriend has gone crazy! He’s going out alot more and not spending any time with me. He says I cry and act sick to get attention, and thats not the case at all. I’m pregnant for godness sake! I have been really sick with upset stomach the past 2 weeks and can’t get my boyfriend to understand that these are symptoms of pregnancy!
All men are different, you have to find a way to get through to him. If he doesn’t read, don’t throw a book of "what to expect when you are expecting". Try talking to him about the hormones and how that affects you.
My husband was thrilled when I had morning sickness days before I took the test. Now, he makes me breakfast and sometimes dinner every day. He does get tired of the face I make whenever I feel sick, but he makes me feel better by hugging me or kissing me.
Sounds to me like he thinks just because you are carrying the child, it is your problem and that is not true. Tell him that it’s not that You are pregnant, you are Both pregnant. It took the both of you to make the baby, it will take the 2 or you to take care of it even before it’s born. He has to know that it is a partnership and you didn’t ask for the morning sickness, or headaches, or anything. That all you are asking for is his support and you do not want to go through this alone.
Maybe when you are alone you can casually say that you read something that is very interesting and that the baby is the size of a sesame seed or that at this point, the heartbeat is beating primatively. Something to make him see that there is a living being inside of you and it needs love and care.
tell him you pansy!!!
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It’s not you, it’s him.
Don’t let him shift the blame. He’s uncomfortable with what’s happened and this is his way of dealing with it.
You better sit down and talk about what you two are going to do 9-months from now.
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Say, "Hey, knucklehead, I’m acting this way because I’m pregnant and my hormones are going insane."
I have to say though…this guy doesn’t sound like the type who is going to stick around very long.
Good luck.
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i think thats crazy that you are having symptoms so early on, but i guess everyone is different.
Sorry hunny but NO MAN understands what we are going through! they dont have to deal with it. its something they can run away from when times get hard. i was a very emotional pregnant! and it took some time for my husband to deal.. he was scared at first, as any man is… but if your boyfriend is seriously into ya’ll relationship and having a baby, he will come around..
some men aren’t meant to be fathers… just keep that in mind!
You’ll be fine! He will come around… i hope for your sake..
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tell him to stick a watermelon up his peehole and to not get emotional
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have him read up info about pregnancy and he is crazy u cant fake being sick bcnit comes and goes and if he acts like this now wait till u r 6 7 or 8 months and its hard be strong honey bc this is only the start slap him in the head good luck on ur precious angel
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Theres nothing I can say that is going to make him believe you even more. I just wanted to say stick up for yourself though. Don’t let him be mean to you and leave you alone all the time either. Trust me it gets even more emotional and harder on you so if you cant get him to understand now you are going to have a hard 34 more weeks.
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I guess this kinda goes two ways. I’m not saying his behaviour is ok, but try to remember that although he’s not dealing with morning sickness and raging hormones, he is going through a hell of a lot emotionally and mentally and his behaviour very possibly is stemming from that.
I think you both need to talk to each other openly about exaclty how you are feeling (physically and mentally)… otherwise, it’s only going to get worse
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I started getting sick and emotional 2 weeks after my ovulation date….because I was pregnant! My husband has stuck by me and lets my moods fade away, that’s all he really can do. He’s never once said anything to me about my moods or how I act, he has been my support so far, and will be through the next months. And I can get pretty hateful when I am mad or upset….
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7 weeks 4 days pregnant with my wonderful husband!
The truth is that most guys that aren’t prepared to be a father will not come around to the idera until they see the baby . Then SOME of them will grow up and be a good father. If you plan it together and they feel in control it’s a whole different story. You have to give him time to come around to the idea., If you nag and whine he will just be more likey to freak out. Its not right but its true
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make him go with you to your next doc appointment,and let the professional doctor tell him that it’s all normal..he’s not going to listen to you because most men think that us women have no clue what even goes on in our own bodies..most "self centered and childish" men accuse us of using sickness to get attention because thats what they do,so they believe we all do it to..i’m not saying all men,i’m saying the ones who are not mature enough to handle mature situations..if it were me,after the doctor gives him the low down on what really is going on inside of you,,you need to sit him down and be as straight up as you know how to be,,he either needs to grow up and be a man,accept what is happening to both of you,and start being supportive,,or else..your gonna have to,because you are only 6 wks honey,,it’s gonna get alot more difficult as the pregnancy goes on,and then labor and delivery,,and thats really the easy part,because after that baby is born is when the hard part really starts..he needs to learn how to deal now,while he has time to..good luck.
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proud mommy to a 13 yr old girl,19 mth old boy,and expecting my 3rd and final baby in April 2010..and wife to a man who took a long time learning how to be a man…so i know what i am talking about.
Yes you are emotional during pregnancy so am I. However that is not a excuse because even tho sometime it seems that its not…its manageable. He is the one acting like a freak tho and I think any woman pregnant or not would react to him like you because he is extremely rude. I understand you are more emotional than normal but we all got to deal with it. We cannot go off killing "because we are emotional" that statement wont stand in court. Do you get my point don’t expect him to get you so quick.
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19.5 weeks along
All men are different, you have to find a way to get through to him. If he doesn’t read, don’t throw a book of "what to expect when you are expecting". Try talking to him about the hormones and how that affects you.
My husband was thrilled when I had morning sickness days before I took the test. Now, he makes me breakfast and sometimes dinner every day. He does get tired of the face I make whenever I feel sick, but he makes me feel better by hugging me or kissing me.
Sounds to me like he thinks just because you are carrying the child, it is your problem and that is not true. Tell him that it’s not that You are pregnant, you are Both pregnant. It took the both of you to make the baby, it will take the 2 or you to take care of it even before it’s born. He has to know that it is a partnership and you didn’t ask for the morning sickness, or headaches, or anything. That all you are asking for is his support and you do not want to go through this alone.
Maybe when you are alone you can casually say that you read something that is very interesting and that the baby is the size of a sesame seed or that at this point, the heartbeat is beating primatively. Something to make him see that there is a living being inside of you and it needs love and care.
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