How can I get my Boyfriend to clean?
I have tried what seems like everything. We live together, and we have 2 very large dogs. We also have a 3, and 6 year old over every other weekend and Wednesday and Thursday.
I have tried everything, bribing him with sex etc. Nothing helps except me cleaning up all his messes. He is a great cook, but I wish he wouldn’t bother our kitchen gets so bad. Any ideas?
Also we have had that, "I can’t stand this mess anymore" talk several times.
leave his messes. It sucks but leave them. No words or anger needed. Just leave his stuff. Do not wash his clothes, do any dishes he ate out of, pick up his newspapers, stinky socks, raunchy unders, his coat, nothing. Leave all of it.
When he says anything, and he will, smile and say, "well, I thought you were adult enough to clean up after yourself."
Do not shout, yell, scream or anything. Also, smile even if it feels like its gonna kill you. He cannot function without clean clothes or dishes, etc. He will either offer to help or do it himself.
IF he still refuses, dump this sucker because your time and life is worth more than living with a slob for ever who is NOT adult enough to take care of himself and help you take care of the home you are building. This will bleed over into other areas of your life.
He is disrespecting you and the home you are trying to build.
stick a broom up his @ss and he’ll sweep when he walks
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Dump him and get a new boyfriend.
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You can’t just give up now
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Sit down and really talk with him and explain the effect it has on you and the relationship. Say that you would really like him to take responsibility and do his share.
Some guys are oblivious unless you spell it out to them, so joking and bribing probably won’t get you anywhere.
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leave his messes. It sucks but leave them. No words or anger needed. Just leave his stuff. Do not wash his clothes, do any dishes he ate out of, pick up his newspapers, stinky socks, raunchy unders, his coat, nothing. Leave all of it.
When he says anything, and he will, smile and say, "well, I thought you were adult enough to clean up after yourself."
Do not shout, yell, scream or anything. Also, smile even if it feels like its gonna kill you. He cannot function without clean clothes or dishes, etc. He will either offer to help or do it himself.
IF he still refuses, dump this sucker because your time and life is worth more than living with a slob for ever who is NOT adult enough to take care of himself and help you take care of the home you are building. This will bleed over into other areas of your life.
He is disrespecting you and the home you are trying to build.
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I agree with ckngbbbls but I want to add, Get rid of the dogs, take them to the aspca, if the 2 kids are his, tell their mother it’s unhealthy to bring them there. Now. is the guy really worth it? … if in ur mind there is any doubt… you should leave , go through the grieving process and then move on with your life. Good luck.
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It sounds like those two kids are his. You are a slave to one overgrown kid, two little kids, and two huge dogs. Exactly what are the advantages to you?
You are servicing all these mess-makers, getting no respect,- Why? I’d pack my stuff, all of it and move into my own place. No point trying to teach him a lesson. He has ignored you this long, he thinks he has you right where he wants you. Is this what you deserve?
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